Sacred Lovemaking: Taking Your Sex to a Higher Vibration

Although I am a former sex-educator I will only slowly begin to discuss the subject of sacred love-making. This in itself is a topic deserving a few weeks of devotion all on it's own. However it is sacral chakra week and therefore I thought it appropriate to share some tips for taking your lovemaking to a higher vibration.  Some of you might be reading this and saying "I don't want sacred lovemaking. I just want good sex!" Well , my dear, lust is only a blanket emotion for love, which is what the heart chakra and spirit really want. So realize that you have some shadows or blockages in this area and need to work on them. We often cover our real desires of love with lust because it's easy. Lust allows us moments of validation and love without the risks of being hurt or abandoned. However lust is a negative emotion and by being lustful you open yourself up to a plethora of negative energies that may take up a home in your being self causing situations porn addiction, feelings of isolation, impotence or disease. So yes, healthy sexual energy is very important indeed.  

The amount of emotions going into lovemaking are numerous, especially for most women. This is why I personally like to meditate beforehand. I enjoy Shiva bhjan and a cup of tea but that may not be your style. Playing some music and singing along while you burn some incense is a good start. Singing opens your throat chakra and helps you feel calm and confident. Rose or sandalwood are great smells to burn and to relate to your sacral energy.  Lighting candles, especially sacral scented one are an excellent idea. I enjoy colors like red for the root chakra, orange for sacral, green for the heart and white for the crown. To start any sacred lovemaking sessions eye contact is key. 

There's a reason these cliches exist such as "eyes are the windows to the soul" and "love at first sight". A great deal of energy is passed between two people when they look at each other. You need to spend some time gazing at your lover, appreciating them and allowing yourself to not be shy while being looked at.Looking into your lovers eyes, even from across the room, helps to sync your energy as you prepare for your next step in lovemaking.  A good intellectual conversation doesn't hurt and always actives my third eye which is of course a great aphrodisiac. 

Most of the time people consume themselves with so much pressure and self-doubt or ego during lovemaking that it spoils the fun. In sacred lovemaking you don't want to spend any time focusing on the orgasm. That part will come, it always does and usually forcefully. Focus on simply meditating and being in a state of oneness so that you can enjoy your partner unabashedly. I like to touch my partner, lightly, softly, everywhere, before anything else occurs. This allows both me and my partner to relax and connect feeling at one with our bodies and each others. 

If you partner tries something new before you put up walls and say "I don't do that sort of thing" simply respond to how it feels. Do you like it? Does it feel good? Would you like it harder or softer or slower or faster? Relax and allow yourself to enjoy every movement and moment. Don't judge yourself or put yourself in a box. Take everything slow and instead of focusing on the orgasm enjoy the feeling of being loved. Surrender and allow the lovemaking to purify your energies.

I have included a couple of videos of music that I like for sacred lovemaking.  It all depends on what you and your partner's personal taste is. I love everything from jazz to classical to tribal music. I don't suggest music with words since our brains already have enough to stimulate them. Do you have any rituals for sacred lovemaking? Did you try any of these tips? 

 

Artwork by: Alex Gray